Ada Moment

Coming Back to Enjoy the Moment

It has been a while since I have written anything. I thought about it often, but I have let procrastination get the better half of the situation. Now it is time to get back into the present moment.

So, I’ll just dive right in!

Before going back to work I was really struggling with staying in the present moment and maybe dealing with Postpartum Depression. My mood and the way I was reacting to the world was being affected and I didn’t even realize it.

I would be sitting there holding my daughter in my arms, but instead of being present with her, my mind was off worrying about everything that I could think of.

It finally dawned on me that the only moment that Ada is living in is the here and now. She doesn’t have things to worry about or feel anxiety over, and there are no distractions or clutter that fills her head.

In the moment was where she was, and in the future is where I was.

Ada in the Moment

There were all these things that I was thinking about which were completely irrelevant at the time. Nothing could be done about any of it, yet there I sat worrying about it all.

I was feeling scared to go back to work, nervous about daycare, sad to leave Ada, and probably worrying about something ten years from now as well.

My mind was spiraling out of control, well all the while my beautiful girl sat there looking at me with such a happy face.

After gaining this realization for what was going on, I decided that from this very moment I could either take action or I could live in the fear and anxiety that I was creating.

I realize that I essentially have been worrying way too much about things that I cannot control. To try and control these things keeps me so far from the moment. And I realize that trying to take control of these things I am powerless over, becomes a large source of anxiety. 

So, I came up with some practical things I can do to help me regain my sense of the present moment.

Take a deep breath

A nice and simple step but also one that is often overlooked. Breathing and focusing on the sensations my body is having keeps me firmly planted in the moment.

Ask myself a few questions. where are you, what are you doing, what moment are you in?

I have found this to be extremely helpful. By answering each one of these questions, I become fully aware of the current moment. Sometimes I have to repeat these questions several times until I am able to pull my mind back to the present moment.

Decide what feels better, the here and now or the future.

The answer to this question for me is always the same. That being THE HERE AND NOW. Thinking about what is going on right here and right now always seems to help put things into perspective for me.

Be grateful for what currently is and feel love, not anxiety, for what is to come.

Gratitude is such a huge thing for me. When I feel gratitude for what is currently happening, I am living outside of fear and anxiety. The same goes for when I am putting love into the things that are coming. This creates a completely different mind frame, which allows me to let go and enjoy the here and now.

I have a lot of practicing to do before these things become routine in my life, but it’s the little steps that will get me there.

Mother Teresa in the Moment

In addition, this quote seems to be quite fitting for what I have written. There really is nothing more that I need than the present moment. I have a lot to learn from my daughter, and she has a lot to teach me. I never would have thought that I would be getting a “stay in the moment” lesson from her at such a young age.

She has reminded me that there is no better time than right now, and right now is perfect!

These “stay in the moment” lessons are all around us if we are able to stay awake enough to see them. I hope you are able to notice some of these today!

Well, that is all we have for today and thank you so much for stopping into My Life Experiment. What is written here has come from struggle and growth.
We truly believe that if you take today’s lessons to heart and apply them, that you will greatly benefit.

To see our Terms and Conditions click here

 

Published by

My Life Experiment

Hey everybody this is Travis and Casey Hagen! We write and maintain My Life Experiment. We met in recovery from addiction, got married in recovery. We are now building our own family in recovery with our first child on the way! That we both ended up in recovery shows that we spent periods of our lives experimenting dangerously. But we survived and have found new ways to live. We have also found healthier methods for life experimentation! In this blog we let you into our individual lives as we navigate our own recoveries, our own mental health issues, our own pain, and our own successes. So yes, maybe each of us did go through many hardships because of unhealthy experimentation, but that doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with experimenting with new ways of doing things! It also doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with trying to get to the bottom of how things work. Because, we believe there is something inside both of our natures that enjoys experimenting with life, self examination and finding new ways to succeed! In this blog we will let you into our own individual lives, with our own individual perspectives. We will offer up personal development tips in various areas of our lives such as Mental Health Management, Developing Healthy Relationships, Family Life, and Time and Money Management! So, welcome to the ups and downs, enjoyment and pain of My Life Experiment! Follow us on Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/MyLifeExperimentblog/

3 thoughts on “Coming Back to Enjoy the Moment”

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s